I have a confession: I am an enabler. Not certain why I’ve been doing it all my life, but I am not alone. You probably are too. Most enablers are overachievers, riddled with guilt. They go out of their way to solve other folks’ problems, which ultimately impacts their health, relationships, career, finances and self-esteem.
Sadly, many of us are like Mary Jane Paul, the lead character in BET’s hit Being Mary Jane. We’re searching to fill a personal void in a world filled with people we love. I have an amazing family member who has been afforded countless opportunities. However there is always an excuse for the current bad luck du jour. Just like Mary Jane, I know I shouldn’t reward or support this behavior, but I am probably his only cheerleader.
Do you put the needs of others before your own? Do you give your favorite person money as a way to reduce his or her pain? Do you feel like you are never doing enough to help the person you love? Do you make excuses for someone so that you can save them and feel better about yourself? If the answer to these questions is yes, you are a guilty-as-charged enabler. Read my entire article at MadameNoire: http://madamenoire.com/517645/are-we-enablers-like-mary-jane/