She is tall, statuesque, beautiful, 45, married for 17 years with a couple of grown kids (respectively 22, 31) and now embracing motherhood a second time around to Leila, almost 4 years old.
This sister needs a medic and a glass of wine stat!
“The newness of being a ‘brand’ new mom has worn off. I truly love my life and baby but I miss making power deals,” says Berenice Mabrey, CEO of Precise Management based in Nashville, TN.
Berenice laughs and says, “It was a gift to give my husband a baby with his DNA — he has been raising mine and now they are all grown up. It’s a dream to watch him with our baby, but can a sister get some cardiac resuscitation and conjure up her former life?
She says there are many times when she is gasping for air and feel like the moment won’t pass. Berenice is not alone in feeling this way — how many of us can honestly say that motherhood is everything you thought especially when your “career brand” is put on serious HOLD UP, and you are in your 40’s? Can you say anxiety?
Sister Berenice, we all feel this way (at some point), so don’t beat up yourself. I applaud you for being honest and authentic. Many of us pretend all is well and its not.
As a BNM, your heart will go racing when you remember how fab your pre-baby life was — no PR spin here – just hang in there.
Remember, this too shall pass and the baby does grow each moment and you will re-define your brand and become smarter than before.
It’s much easier for me now with my kids respectively 5 and 12; but I darn sure remember when I too needed cardiac resuscitation. Who am I kidding … I still have those moments albeit fewer.
Here is what continues to work for many BNMs:
1) Taking routine walks with the baby and breathe
2) Exercise and yoga will save you and reduce stress
3) Daycare/nanny care is imperative – even if its just for 2 -3 hours
4) Do something exclusively for you once a week
5) Sleep every chance you get
6) Make love to your husband and channel that inner sexy
7) Join a support group, ‘cause you are not alone– I love Mocha Moms
8) Wine. That’s good mommy medicine after the kids have gone to bed. No drinking and driving.
9) Pray and pray.
10) Enjoy your gift; many people try to conceive each day.
BNM Note: We do not judge in this space called Brand New Mommy.com. Mothers are not perfect – we are all work in progress … especially us Career Moms on hiatus.