My 10 year-old is having academic “situations.”
He is not focused, grades are on life support and he is on the verge of failing the first marking period. This is a real situation.
Sebastian is smart, talented and a little on the shy side, but, this new phase came out of no – where.
He loves to play, however, lately the frolicking has morphed into something “special.” Let me say I know an intervention is needed.
Yes, each child may not be on the academic fast track, but I know when someone is not even trying to do his or her best. That’s what’s happening?
My son can take a part a computer and rebuild it in a matter of mere hours; operate any electronic gadget and assemble in two seconds –that’s his passion but school still must come first.
When his grades started to plummet my husband and I did Intervention 101 and took away some of his privileges. It didn’t faze him.
I knew something was up – but what? Here comes the Brand New Mommy CSI — cap and bag in hand it was time do some major sleuthing.
This past Saturday, I went to Sebastian and said, “I’m not gonna lose you, so what’s up? I asked if he thought his sister was taking his daddy away? He said, “Yes.”
BNM, he started to talk and cry and told me how he was feeling. I marched him downstairs to his dad and said, “You guys talk, cry, hug, and let’s get this situation under control.” I left the room and let the father and son do what they had to do — communicate.
Let me say it’s never a dull moment when you have a blended family or any family for that matter as I relayed in Ebony magazine (November 2010 issue). At the end of the day my family is important to me and saving my son is my #1 priority as a Brand New Mommy.
At present, the situation is under control (keep us in prayer).
Here are my tips for getting the situation under control:
1) Observe all new behaviors and record it
2) Communicate by talking their language
3) Call an intervention
4) Timing is key, don’t waste any time
5) Monitor behavior each week and record it.
Has this ever happened to you with your child/children and what did you do to remedy the situation? Do you think I handled this correctly?